Forgive Your Father Mini-Workshop

Forgive Your Father Mini-Workshop

Last week I had an incredible breakthrough regarding my father after reading a friend’s book I was crying in tears of compassion, love, for time lost because my heart was shut- regarding my father. My father (who I adored until what happened) shot my mom and killed...

You are being called for more…

You are being called for more…

I’m Speaking tomorrow on How to Heal Your Life by Sharing Your Story in this free series “Step Into Your Power: Crush your inner critic, discover your unique gifts and live the life you really want to live.” Grab your free ticket here! Brenda

Sample chapter from Forgiveness Book

Sample chapter from Forgiveness Book

My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable This book is a labor of love. A dedication to my father and the resilience born out of my parents' conflict. It is part memoir and part workbook. Use this to heal to the depths of your being....

New Storytelling Mini-Workshop coming

New Storytelling Mini-Workshop coming

Over 200 amazing humans have turned the events from their lives into captivating stories using my Story SHOW Method. And since then, 2 things happened. #1 I was able to give over 100 of them a platform to speak in front of an invited audience ( in –person and then...

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Hard to decide how I like to work with my clients' best- Here's what I coached my clients on in the last two weeks: How to Share their Stories LIVE in Front of an Audience to Slay The Audience Emotionally (meaning Make them Feel plus Feel Inspired) How to Nail an...

Never go to sleep angry, because you never know if the person you’re mad at will wake up the next morning. Always forgive someone. You never know if you’ll speak to them again. Get over it. It’s better than knowing you’ll never get to tell them you’re sorry, or that you still love them. It might be too late.


I like to spend Fridays tapping into why I tell my story in the first place, why I am so inspired to show others how to heal from their story and then how to share in an even bigger way so they can help more people.

Luckily when my mother was murdered by my father I had a great relationship with her so I didn’t move into guilt and shame and all the myriad of emotions that come from love not expressed, from judging others and/or from distancing ourselves.

But I have had life coaching clients who distanced themselves from parents as they should have (because their parents never showed any remorse for abuse), but then were afraid that the parent would die and they would feel guilty.

What I teach them is something I did to release my anger toward my father before he died so that when he did I was free of guilt (I know it makes no sense to feel guilty but emotions sometimes have no logic- have you noticed?)

1. Set a healthy boundary.

If your parent has never taken responsibility for their actions I wouldn’t suggest having them back in your life except in a minimal way and only if it is necessary.

2. Creative Visioning.

Remember them as a little child or as a baby when they couldn’t possibly have been abusive. More likely they were abused. Connect with that essence as a way to take in their God-like qualities so that you can find compassion for them…because that opens your heart to the loving.

3. Fiercely Connect with That Compassion.

When you think of them and perhaps get angry…bring forth this new compassionate side. It will help you to experience more joy and help you to move into acceptance of your self-honoring choice of limiting your time with them. That is an act of self-love. And so when it is time for them to pass on…there will be less or no guilt.

Make sense?

This is a way to change the story you are telling yourself about your relationship with and to them and that begins the healing.

Interested in more healing tips?

Fridays I’ll be focusing on them.

Monday is for miracles, the power of story, and some cool tips for making the biggest just being you.

In the loving,


P.S. Just have to share a couple of comments I received from students in my The Freedom to Tell Your Hero Story Master Class Series this week so they know how much they mean to me.

“If it wasn’t for you, I doubt I would ever be on this path to my highest aspirations”


“What a break through b/c of Brenda Adelman on my “why” in regards to my business practices. I discovered a direction I want to go with my business which is Super Great . I really Love how Brenda Adelman does her Magick!!

Biz Owner