It's here - my gift to you during these changing times. This is my program, Phoenix Rising: A Journey from Forgiveness to Freedom that I have run several times live. If you are struggling with the burden of unforgiveness of... yourself your father your mother or | God...
Hero of Forgiveness award recipient Brenda Adelman shares tips on how and why to forgive - it's for you. How to identify if you need to forgive someone, how to do it and a way to receive personal guidance Everything suffers when you are STUCK in * a PERSONAL...
Become a Founding Member of The Freedom Circle, Change Your Relationship to Love, Business and to Yourself for Greater Freedom. As soon as you sign-up you'll get access to Forgiveness in Your Romantic Relationships. The LIVE training is Friday at 12 noon PST and there...
Hero of Forgiveness award recipient Brenda Adelman introduces her new 90 Day Program, The Freedom Circle- where forgiveness and freedom come together. https://brendaadelman.lpages.co/forgive-be-free-membership/ Change Your Relationship to Love, Money and to Yourself...
I grew up in Brooklyn with a Jewish ‘wannabe’ Italian dad who worked 15 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. He taught me how to drive a Cadillac when I was six and how to shoot a gun at 10. I was daddy’s little girl. My Bohemian artist mom raised me, took me...
The holidays immediately following my mother's death and my father's incarceration and my break-up with my fiance were dark. It took me years to climb, claw out of the deep loneliness and victim stance I was living as my life. I felt sorry for myself. Yes, I lived...
I was afraid, I couldn’t breathe, I had a fight with my celebrity acting teacher and I stepped on stage despite it all
My heart was racing. It took every bit of courage for me to sign up to tell my story on stage in this top acting class in LA with a celebrity teacher and 100 top actors. I had spent the last several years hiding, filled with shame, feeling like an outsider,...
Saturday I spent all day in Los Angeles at a very special annual event held by The Los Angeles Women's Theatre Festival. It's called empowerment day and it was filled with powerful, talented and passionate women all creating solo-shows, taking stages and truly...
I grew up in Brooklyn with a Jewish ‘wanna be’ Italian dad who worked 15 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. He taught me how to drive a Cadillac when I was six and how to shoot a gun at 10. I was daddy’s little girl. My Bohemian artist mom raised me, took me...
If you don't want to be sporadic, start and stop and you want to write the best material in your life, let me know and if I can help you I will. When you open up and tell your story it can be very healing.... I was in acting class for over a decade so you don't have...
Never go to sleep angry, because you never know if the person you’re mad at will wake up the next morning. Always forgive someone. You never know if you’ll speak to them again. Get over it. It’s better than knowing you’ll never get to tell them you’re sorry, or that you still love them. It might be too late.
I like to spend Fridays tapping into why I tell my story in the first place, why I am so inspired to show others how to heal from their story and then how to share in an even bigger way so they can help more people.
Luckily when my mother was murdered by my father I had a great relationship with her so I didn’t move into guilt and shame and all the myriad of emotions that come from love not expressed, from judging others and/or from distancing ourselves.
But I have had life coaching clients who distanced themselves from parents as they should have (because their parents never showed any remorse for abuse), but then were afraid that the parent would die and they would feel guilty.
What I teach them is something I did to release my anger toward my father before he died so that when he did I was free of guilt (I know it makes no sense to feel guilty but emotions sometimes have no logic- have you noticed?)
1. Set a healthy boundary.
If your parent has never taken responsibility for their actions I wouldn’t suggest having them back in your life except in a minimal way and only if it is necessary.
2. Creative Visioning.
Remember them as a little child or as a baby when they couldn’t possibly have been abusive. More likely they were abused. Connect with that essence as a way to take in their God-like qualities so that you can find compassion for them…because that opens your heart to the loving.
3. Fiercely Connect with That Compassion.
When you think of them and perhaps get angry…bring forth this new compassionate side. It will help you to experience more joy and help you to move into acceptance of your self-honoring choice of limiting your time with them. That is an act of self-love. And so when it is time for them to pass on…there will be less or no guilt.
This is a way to change the story you are telling yourself about your relationship with and to them and that begins the healing.
Interested in more healing tips?
Fridays I’ll be focusing on them.
Monday is for miracles, the power of story, and some cool tips for making the biggest impact.by just being you.
In the loving,
P.S. Just have to share a couple of comments I received from students in my The Freedom to Tell Your Hero Story Master Class Series this week so they know how much they mean to me.
“If it wasn’t for you, I doubt I would ever be on this path to my highest aspirations”
“What a break through b/c of Brenda Adelman on my “why” in regards to my business practices. I discovered a direction I want to go with my business which is Super Great . I really Love how Brenda Adelman does her Magick!!