What’s Stopping You From Living Your True Potential?
It's Week 7 of The Presence Process. This deeply profound book by Michael Brown helps you to connect with this quality of Presence and bring it to every moment of your life. This way when I'm interacting with someone and I get upset or even when I'm by myself (but...
My Mother’s Death Publicized and How it Feels
Wow-it's one thing to be interviewed for a story and it's another thing to see it in print. I'm not sure exactly how I feel. This was just published in a magazine Chat in England. The timing is synchronistic as I am performing my one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet in...
V-Day at Antioch: Raising Money to Stop Violence
I'm super excited to be volunteering tonight at V-Day Antioch. V-day is an event held worldwide each year to benefit organizations that help women and children who have been abused and assaulted. This non-profit primarily raises their money through benefit productions...
Bringing the message of how to forgive to prisoners
Yesterday was a big day. I started the day visiting a women's jail. A friend who works with a program that goes into the prisons invited me to be a guest and speak on the power of forgiving the unforgivable. I chose to speak on how to forgive yourself and love...
How To Forgive Yourself For The Way Your Life Turned Out
Here's my answer to the second question: Katherine: How can i forgive myself for my life and how it worked out? In a rut and tired. Brenda:Katherine-thanks for your question and for reaching out for direction. Self-Forgiveness is the most important and first step in...
Coaching about forgiving a murderer
Earlier today I asked my readers on my Facebook Forgiveness and Freedom Fanpage http://www.facebook.com/ForgivenessandFreedom if they had challenges with forgiveness. I offered to respond with some guidance to help relieve their suffering. First, I want to thank...
Releasing Addiction through Forgiveness
Recently, I found myself thinking about the nature of addictions. What purpose are they serving? Are they serving the same purpose no matter the form they take? The answer is yes. Do you smoke? Drink too much? Overwork? Shop too much? Pop prescription drugs? Street...
Creating a successful one-woman show
I thought today I would give a history of my show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, for those of you interested in expressing yourself in this medium. I was an actress in 1995 when my father took my mother's life. The first few years I hid behind the characters I played and then...
My Brooklyn Hamlet-my one-woman show in England
It' s confirmed. I'll have two performances of my one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, at the Leeds International Performing Arts Festival in June. I'm waiting on final dates to possibly extend my trip and perform my one-woman show for another 3 weeks in London at The...
Recovery From Betrayal-radio interview
Hi everyone, Claudine Struck invited me back to her radio show on Voice America. The Recovery from Betrayal episode is ready to listen to at Stay Sane Now Radio Talk: http://www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1481 Claudine interviewed me for the first 16...
Never go to sleep angry, because you never know if the person you’re mad at will wake up the next morning. Always forgive someone. You never know if you’ll speak to them again. Get over it. It’s better than knowing you’ll never get to tell them you’re sorry, or that you still love them. It might be too late.
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I like to spend Fridays tapping into why I tell my story in the first place, why I am so inspired to show others how to heal from their story and then how to share in an even bigger way so they can help more people.
Luckily when my mother was murdered by my father I had a great relationship with her so I didn’t move into guilt and shame and all the myriad of emotions that come from love not expressed, from judging others and/or from distancing ourselves.
But I have had life coaching clients who distanced themselves from parents as they should have (because their parents never showed any remorse for abuse), but then were afraid that the parent would die and they would feel guilty.
What I teach them is something I did to release my anger toward my father before he died so that when he did I was free of guilt (I know it makes no sense to feel guilty but emotions sometimes have no logic- have you noticed?)
1. Set a healthy boundary.
If your parent has never taken responsibility for their actions I wouldn’t suggest having them back in your life except in a minimal way and only if it is necessary.
2. Creative Visioning.
Remember them as a little child or as a baby when they couldn’t possibly have been abusive. More likely they were abused. Connect with that essence as a way to take in their God-like qualities so that you can find compassion for them…because that opens your heart to the loving.
3. Fiercely Connect with That Compassion.
When you think of them and perhaps get angry…bring forth this new compassionate side. It will help you to experience more joy and help you to move into acceptance of your self-honoring choice of limiting your time with them. That is an act of self-love. And so when it is time for them to pass on…there will be less or no guilt.
Make sense?
This is a way to change the story you are telling yourself about your relationship with and to them and that begins the healing.
Interested in more healing tips?
Fridays I’ll be focusing on them.
Monday is for miracles, the power of story, and some cool tips for making the biggest impact.by just being you.
In the loving,
Brenda
P.S. Just have to share a couple of comments I received from students in my The Freedom to Tell Your Hero Story Master Class Series this week so they know how much they mean to me.
“If it wasn’t for you, I doubt I would ever be on this path to my highest aspirations”
Performer
“What a break through b/c of Brenda Adelman on my “why” in regards to my business practices. I discovered a direction I want to go with my business which is Super Great . I really Love how Brenda Adelman does her Magick!!
Biz Owner