I couldn’t have said it better myself.
I forgave my father for shooting my mother and killing her.
This was a process and took time. I write about my journey in my kindle book.
I forgave my brother for what I perceived at the time of my mother’s death- him abandoning me.
On deeper reflection I saw that I could be said to have abandoned him too- takes two to break a relationship. That led me to deep regret and then an even deeper level of self-forgiveness- out of which our relationship was renewed.
But who did I have the hardest time forgiving?
My aunt…the woman who married my father after he took her sister’s (my mom’s) life.
My aunt didn’t live near me. I didn’t love her. I didn’t think my judgment of her was affecting me. I wasn’t motivated to forgive her…until something happened.
I just wasn’t feeling right for awhile. Can you relate?
So I went to an energy worker. My neck seemed constantly ‘frozen.’ The energy worker literally said I was under psychic attack from a woman …and then went on to describe the woman (was my aunt)
I then realized I was giving power to my aunt through my anger toward her. I was creating an opening energetically for her toxic feelings about me to come in.
I wanted to close that up.
SO-WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH BEING TRUMPED?
Well, I judged my aunt as stupid, with no scruples, only out for herself, with an inability to empathize….all qualities I attribute to one candidate..and to be honest, except for the ‘stupid’ comment- a remarkable number of Americans attribute those very same characteristics to the other nominee too.
But those judgments against Trump and his supporters (most of whom I don’t know) are taking up space in my psyche and decreasing my personal sense of well-being.
So, what can we do?
What’s in our power to take us from righteously only believing our thoughts and denying what we don’t want to believe about our candidate…and then to take it further- what do we deny about ourselves and/or justify about our actions or someone in our life because that suits our ‘story’ – the story we’ve lived by and to justify the choices we make daily?
How can we take more responsibility for ourselves and stop shirking our responsibility and choices?
I notice we point out what’s wrong with the other candidate and as if pointing to their wrongs makes our choice right?
What does this say about us and even more important- how can we heal the fear in our hearts despite outer circumstances? How can we come together with our fellow Americans?
How can we get the bigger lesson that can change our lives and the world for the better?
Not for the faint of heart. This is a deep commitment to inquiry and taking responsibility for our words, thoughts and actions.
Here’s what I just wrote on my FB page sparked by a post I made and then listening to the ‘other’ viewpoint from someone I deeply respect:
FB POST COMMENT:
Facts are facts but can be spun and seen through our unique filters and color the way we relate to each issue.
Facts are facts but the anger and againstness and justifications are unhealed parts inside us that we have an opportunity to shine a light on.
I believe our feelings of being out of control and having an inability to change other people puts fuel to the fire.
We all come to this election with different perspectives, beliefs, experiences and upbringings
I’ll go as far as to say we deny in order to justify and support the decisions we are making.
It happening with this election but maybe there is also an opportunity to look at this at a fierce level in our personal lives too.
But how much of this is done from a place of conscious awareness.
When I go into righteousness about ‘I’m right and you’re wrong” then I add to the negativity. I’m not here to do that. It’s like I see so much at stake and it makes me want to fight- I fear losing my rights- makes me feel powerless.
I want to stand up for what I think will be best and I see that I sometimes act out of fear- which is exactly what I ‘accuse’ other’s of doing.
I am going to pivot in my sharing. I am committed to shed light on my beliefs and thoughts and fears that have been running me unconsciously.
I am committed to taking full responsibility for my actions and choices.
I am committed to finding the lessons and healing myself.
I know that as we practice this level of inquiry we can heal ourselves and the world.
The good news is that the power to bring about that kind of massive change starts within us and that we are in control of.
If you are triggered by the election and would like to set up a Forgiveness Activation Session with me – we will get together for 30 minutes to identify your biggest judgment, work toward reframing it, learning a lesson and uplifting your vibration.
These special sessions are only being offered until the end of October. $37 for 30 minutes ($100 value) I don’t want money to get in the way of you getting assistance from me to help you get unstuck.
Your session must be booked and scheduled and complete by October 31st, 2016. (Offer expires then)
Once purchased you will get a welcome email and a link to my scheduler within 24 hours.
Here’s to creating a more empowered story…..
Brenda
