Stopping domestic violence is a cause so passionate for me because my father shot and killed my mother in 1995.
It was my wake-up call.
I had no idea that I was in a family with domestic violence because although I knew about the emotional abuse-I didn’t realize that threats with a gun was domestic violence. I thought, like so many people, that if no one was being beaten up-it was bearable and acceptable.
I didn’t understand that my mother’s self-esteem was so worn down by years of emotional abuse and threats that she couldn’t stand up for herself like I thought she should.
If you are in a relationship that is volatile emotionally or physically stop making excuses and get professional help or get away. In order to heal it’s important to have some distance from the situation.
I teach about how to forgive. What a lot of people don’t realize is that self-forgiveness is the most important part of my teaching. I don’t teach to forgive and forget. I teach to learn the lessons, change your behavior and love yourself more. From that place of self-love and honor forgiveness is easier because you understand it’s for you.
To your freedom,
Brenda
