Let me help you see what may be right in front of you but not visible to you.
If you want to live in the present moment and have more joy…
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Isn’t it funny how we can see what someone else should do to make their life better and yet we can’t always see it clearly for ourselves.
This really hit home yesterday. I was in a my weekly improvisation class watching scenes (before it was my turn to get up) and I could easily spot what was funny and real in the scenes. I wondered why the actors couldn’t catch the nuances and sometimes the big gifts another actor gave them with their wit, suggestions and actions.
Then it was my turn…and blank I went. Well, not jumping in seemed a worse fate than an unfunny start so I jumped in with a scenario and a relationship. My scene partner responded and then…blank again. I was thinking really hard, trying to figure out what to say next and some words came…but it wasn’t easy and it wasn’t graceful and it wasn’t joyful. I was actually on stage trying to be funny and wondering-why do I do this to myself?!
***Actually, I do it to myself so I can blow past my comfort zone, learn, grow and feel alive***
I saw the struggle on my partner’s face too. We looked to each other for a life-line, for what seemed like an eternity (in reality it was about three minutes) and it just wasn’t coming.
(Now I will say I did a scene earlier in the class that came out great and was fun–so what was the difference?)
I’ll tell you what a big difference was between my two scenes and watching vs taking part in a scene.
- In the first scene I was in the present moment just being there without judging myself.
- I could see what the other actors weren’t catching because I wasn’t judging myself. And I can see how I’m a better improv actor for watching them because I started to see patterns emerge that I couldn’t see in myself.
I’m going to go to a show tonight to enjoy and mainly to learn more (from the sidelines).
I’m talking about this today because it’s really hard to see yourself clearly, especially when you are judging yourself.
I’ve spent over ten years and over $50,000 (that’s right) to learn how to identify patterns and behaviors that don’t serve me so I could create the life I have now.
I went to school for two years to get my Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology because I knew inwardly that there was more than I saw on the surface.
In my case–my search came because of the extraordinary loss and pain I felt when my dad shot and killed my mom.
And what I found out was that there’s something bigger than the circumstances of my life that were at work and that I had control over the rest of my life by learning how I wanted to live and love and taking actions based on this.
You can take dominion over your life and your relationships too.
Within 3 months of learning and applying the skills of setting healthy boundaries (yes-it’s possible), connecting with my inner guidance, and opening my heart I met the love of my life (nine years ago) and we’ve created an amazing life.
You can too.
I forgave my father (and never saw him again) . I forgave my mother (for the role model she was of how it was okay to be mistreated by someone that says they love you) and I’ve been teaching the principles of forgiveness and how to apply it in your relationships with others and yourself for several years and now…
I have designed a weekend workshop to bring the learning directly to you.
It’s this month-October 23rd and October 24th.
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Feel free to send me your questions about the weekend if you don’t find your answer there.
I look forward to ‘seeing’ those of you who know this is what you’ve been looking for!
Brenda
