I would say that I have had a Valentine for Valentine’s Day about half the time I’ve been alive – maybe 1/3 of the time.
I was never really someone who had to have a partner. (In the past it was a boyfriend and for the last 10 years it’s been a girlfriend).
As a matter of fact, I broke up with my boyfriend one Valentine’s Day years ago because I just knew the relationship wasn’t working, but he insisted we wait until the day passed and my upcoming birthday was over.
SO we did…we exchanged gifts …and then we broke up. Still hard to do…but necessary.
I’ve found over the last few years that I’ve awoken to the fact that my partner is in a way-a part of me. She’s a reflection of all that I believe is good, bad, delightful and inspiring.
She mirrors my world for me so I can reflect on what’s working and what’s not.
The relationship is truly a gift.
That said – the way we met over 10 years ago and how we got together could never have been something I anticipated.
There were no law of attraction ‘secrets’ back then. Yes, the principal was there but I surely didn’t know it.
What I did is love myself.
Love all those parts in me that I thought were ugly, deceitful, mean, weak …you get the picture.
I had been attending a 2 year experiential Psychology Program (I received a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology) where I learned how to turn up everything inside myself that was not loving so it could be healed through loving awareness.
I stopped judging the people I had been judging for years.
The result–I felt better and no longer carried all that anger.
With the letting go -I felt a sense of freedom and delight and joy for life again.
And from that place of inner loving…and being completely okay not having a partner at the time – I met ‘the one.’
First-let me wish you the best Valentine’s ever-filled with a sense of joy and love.
Second: If you’d like to find out how I created the loving space within to make room for love to come to me (in the form of my relationship with my partner) I invite you to get take a look at Opening to Love.
Click here now to find out how you too can let go and let Love rule.
For just this week I’m also adding some special one-on-one coaching time with me as part of the home study program. And I’m not charging any additional fees for this.
At the end of this week I’ll be pulling that because I am working on some other exciting things and won’t have time to keep that bonus going.
To your loving…it’s an inside job.
Brenda
